Excerpted from the book Changing Course by Claudia Black, Ph.D., Senior Fellow at The Meadows
Many times abandonment issues are fused with distorted, confused, or undefined personal boundaries. We experience abandonment when parents have a distorted sense of boundaries, their boundaries and ours. They want us to like what they like, dress like they dress, and feel as they do. If we in any way express differences from our parents, or make different choices than they would, we know we run the risk of rejection.
By Shahida Arabi, M.A., Author
“Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom. But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the task of early adulthood - establishing independence and intimacy - burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships. She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.”
– Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – from Domestic Violence to Political Terror
By Brenna Gonzales, MS, LPC, Rio Retreat Center at The Meadows Therapist
In our culture, we are taught that certain feelings are off limits. There is a general sense that if you’re not happy most of the time that you’re doing life wrong.
Families can feel a bit over-extended during the holidays. That can make the prospect of entering into treatment for trauma, addiction, eating disorders, and other mental health issues even more daunting. We hope to help ease a little bit of burden, by extending our free flight offer throughout the month of December.
U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy’s release of Facing Addiction in America: The Surgeon General’s Report on Alcohol, Drugs, and Health at yesterday’s Facing Addiction Summit was an unprecedented moment in our country’s fight against addiction and substance misuse. It is the first time in history that a U.S. surgeon general has issued a report focused on drug and alcohol addiction. The report comes at a time when more and more Americans are struggling with the effects of addiction to opioids and heroin. One person dies every 19 minutes from an opioid or heroin overdose. And, the statistics related to other addictions are no less grim. One in seven people in the United States will face a substance misuse disorder, and only 10 percent will get the treatment they need to overcome it.
We are grateful every day for the opportunity to change lives and give hope those struggling with trauma, addiction, or mental health issues. As a token of our gratitude, we are offering to cover airfare for individuals admitting to inpatient treatment at any of our inpatient programs:
Intensive Family Program • Innovative Experiential Therapy • 12-Step Program Focus